The Checklist
Below I have created a "checklist". If you have experienced any of the following, you may be experiencing emotional abuse or bullying.
Does this person:
- Hardly ever discuss how they're feeling?
- Tell you that your opinion doesn't count or isn't important?
- Get's angry when you try to discuss an issue with them?
- Says that they "have no idea what you're talking about" when you try to discuss an issue with them?
- Refuses to discuss issues with you?
- Ignore you or dismiss your opinion when you do discuss an issue?
- Tell you or imply that they will hurt themself, you or others if you don't do what they want you too?
- Always want more, no matter how much you give?
- Make generous promises (usually dependant on your behaviour) and then rarely keep them?
- Make lousy excuses why they didn't keep their promise?
- Threaten to make some aspect of your life difficult/end your relationship if you don't do what they want?
- You often feel confused about a situation; you don't know if you are right or wrong about something?
- Swear at you or call you explicit and undeserved names?
- Constantly calls you wrong, useless, unsupportive, unreasonable, mean, selfish or other guilt-inducing names.
- Seem irritated or annoyed with you when you know you've done nothing wrong?
- Give you "looks", smirks, snarls or stares that make you feel like you've done something wrong?
- Ignores you for no reason at all?
- Use money, gifts or other desires to get their way?
- Asks you if you ever "stop and think about their feelings" when you are discussing an issue?
- Refuses to accept your view, even after telling them a thousand times?
- Yells at you for something that is unreasonable or for no reason at all?
- Makes you feel sick, scared, nautious and/or anxious when you're around them?
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