ace two three four five six seven eight nine ten jack queen king.

Excluding the joker, if you add up the letters in all the names of the cards in the deck (ace, two, three, four,...,king) the total number of letters is 52, the same as the number of cards in the deck.

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Accepting It

Accepting that you're being abused is very, very hard. The first thing you'll probably think is "No way, this person is supposed to be nice to me (especially if they are a relative). No one would deliberately try and hurt me, that's not right. Would they?" Well the answer that you've got to get through to yourself is, yes, people will do that kind of thing. And I know it really hurts to hear that kind of thing if it's a parent or relative. This stage is most commonly called denial, and don't worry, everyone goes through it. Some people never get past the denial stage, and they end up miserable and confused, but you can get through it. You just need to be honest with yourself.

You'll probably next be really embarressed about being abused. Most people are. You'll probably think that you're weak and a wimp because you are being abused. That's absolutely not true. If anything, you're braver for having to deal with abuse. Abuse can happen to anyone, it could happen to the most courageous person in the world, and it would still affect them the same way it is affecting you. It's normal to be embarrassed about this kind of thing, but try as hard as you can to not be, because being open about it is the best thing you can do to stop it. Here are a few steps to help you accept what's happening and to get over the "embarrassment".

1. The first thing you should do is talk to someone. I know it's hard to drive yourself to do so, but it's probably the most important thing you can do. Talking to someone will not only make you feel better, but it will also give you someone else's view of the situation. They will probably also be able to get you more help in dealing with it.
2. Tell yourself the truth. Don't keep telling yourself lies to make yourself feel better. Believe me, it doesn't work. If anything it makes it worse, as you just keep getting more and more disappointed. It will sound horrible, but telling yourself that it is happening helps to sink in. Once it has sunk in, things will be so much easier.
3. I found that I was constantly telling myself that it would eventually end and I should just wait. Well, chances are that it's not going to. A good way to confirm that it's not going to stop, is to write down whenever the person does something that hurts you. List them, and every so often look at how many you have. You can also write down when the person says sorry, or something to that effect, and compare them. I think you'll find that one list is a little bigger than the other!
4. Whatever you do, never blame yourself for what they do. The more you blame yourself, the longer it will take for you to accept you are being abused. When you blame yourself, you are putting yourself down and making yourself more and more depressed, which can lead to really serious problems. You've got to accept the fact that this person IS doing what they are doing, and it IS THEIR choice to do so.